The US Open was supposed to end yesterday at Torrey Pines on a
dusky Father's Day evening in La
Jolla, California. But Rocco Mediate and Tiger Woods played to an unlikely tie and today's arguably historic playoff. That is, two playoffs - - - an extra round of 18 playoff holes, and a gut-wrenching follow-on "sudden death" playoff hole. Five rounds of golf in an extended weekend when Mediate looked certain to do the improbable. But the ghost of Earl Woods was ever-present. He was looking for a Father's Day gift from his son, and he certainly got one. Sorry Rocco.
It was as though Earl was whispering in Tiger's ear saying: "I know you miss me, I know your knee hurts you, I know you're not playing well. Replay the tapes, and you'll probably see Tiger paying close attention . . . just as he had from the first time Earl took him to a golf course until the last time he embraced his father after another stunning victory. We thought we were watching Tiger alone, but in reality, Earl was invisibly with him.
All of what I witnessed throughout Tiger's ordeal brought to mind some lessons for fathers about leaving a legacy to their children. The legacy of love, purpose, and faith. I know my eyes weren't playing tricks on me, so let me tell you what I saw.
I saw the pundits openly suggesting that Tiger was not on his "A" game and was vulnerable to certain defeat. That Tiger could be "human" like the rest of us, and face bowing to defeat gracefully. With the ebb and flow of Tiger's miscues and
brilliance, they fluctuated in their
criticisms and admirations. No loyalty, just reporting the facts,
ey? Put aside the prophesies and the biases. I saw them get Tiger wrong again. Wonder why? They didn't see Earl.
I saw the reasons that are so perplexing to the experts who grovel to be first in predicting Tiger's presumed demise. No doubt, Tiger's glory run will end someday as it does for any mortal man. Of course, this presumes that Tiger is of this world. But we have to wonder why he does so many "other-wordly" deeds.
As I know that he is "in" this world, I also know that the day of his demise has not yet come. When I reflect on what distinguishes Woods from other golfers, athletes, and for that matter --- other actors of note in the public domain, I see at least ten virtues that Earl infused in Tiger, standing as tenets for those looking to model successful achievement.
First. Tiger was focused. When he is on the course, he is about his business. Despite his miscues, he did not see his mistakes as "failures". Rather, he saw them as opportunities to figure out what adjustments to make on the next hole.
Second. Tiger was resolute. He never gave up, even when most of us would. He did not quit when the going got tough for him. Even though he was in
excruciating pain, he would not let himself give up. As long as he could stand up, he had a chance to strike the next ball in his quest to hole it. One ball at a time. One stroke at a time.
Third. Tiger was resilient. He rebounded from the adversities he faced, and there were many. He made an awful lot of mistakes in 91 holes of golf, probably more than most, but he still emerged as the champion. He started rounds with bogeys on early holes that would discourage mere mortals to resign themselves to accepting mediocre rounds. He fought to remain poised and converted his mistakes to learning opportunities and not excuses for performing poorly.
Fourth. Tiger was courageous. He appeared to some to be fool-hardy at times, and was often accused of going "where angels fear to thread". But what he was doing was exercising "courage" of a brand few of his critics could comprehend. Courage neither guarantees success nor prevents defeat. Rather we saw Tiger 's courage position him to perform --- to continue to act, even in the face of pain and fear (real or perceived).
We have to remember that Tiger's experiences, scope of play, and repertoire of capabilities and strategies have taken him to and keeps him in a mental space that few athletes (or others for that matter) know exist. Tigers fears less because he has confronted more fearful situations than others have dared to broach. He neither takes for granted nor is contemptuous of that which he knows. Instead, he gives healthy respect to obstacles and challenges, but only to the extent that his limitations have already been duly tested. Even so, Tiger is so courageous that he does not fear challenging his own limitations, which he did many times in the 2008 US Open.
Fifth. Tiger was confident. Confidence is knowing that one can rise to any challenge. Tiger demonstrated a strong inner certainty about his capabilities, which translated to a confidence that the uninformed label "arrogance". In the post-match interview with Bob
Costas, Tiger's humble circumspection about golf, family, success, and his struggles in this US Open revealed a "knowing" that is not influenced by commentary or the need for external validation. No doubt, Mediate performed stupendously. But he was not Tiger's competition. Tiger's competiton was and is his own unfulfilled potentiality. A truly self-actualized person in his tender years. Not yet near his peak.
Sixth. Tiger exhibited an uncanny mental toughness. He is probably the mentally toughest athlete today, and maybe in the history of professional sports. A never-say-die sort of person. Resolute, determined, convinced that he could, no --- he would win. He didn't hurt Mediate, he just rose about Mediate's near-flawless performance. As wonderful as his contemporaries are, Tiger is tougher. He is better. He is greater. Earl gave him that.
Seventh. Tiger adapted to conditions and situations. He was constantly making adjustments. He respects defeat was well as victory. He knew when and how to change his strategy. To do something different and even unexpected. Come what may. He knew that he must be adaptable. And he could afford to be that way. He practices scenarios in his mind, and he was intelligent enough to get input from his long-standing and trusted caddy. He realized that the Open was simply an obstacle course designed to frustrate, even humiliate its players. But he didn't care about the facts. Truth be told, Tiger was a geometer. He was his clubs. He was his balls. He was the green, the hole. He was the ball going in each hole in less strokes than made by others. He just didn't care about how painful it might be. So what.
Eighth. Tiger demonstrated his capacity for the love of golf, his parents, family members, colleagues, and detractors. When you switch to his humanitarian pursuits, they reveal poignantly his love for his fellow man, and children in particular. A model to emulate. He owes his parents a lot.
Ninth. Slowly but surely, Tiger regained his balance after knee surgery. He appears to be quite mindful to keep his professional career, personal life, and community service in perspective. His
humility is the fulcrum of his character and personality. He is appreciative of his talents, gifts, and accomplishments. In the US Open, he took nothing for granted.
Tenth. Finally, Tiger exercised unwavering faith throughout the Open. All of the attributes I've described above came into play as a result of a strong sense of faith that creates personal power to achieve one's greatest desires. It seems complicated, but it's quite simple. Faith in a higher creator, faith in knowing that he was created to be the greatest golfer ever, faith in the American dream to allow opportunity for a "cabralasian", faith in the precious institution of family, and faith in the sense of fair play for all.
Clearly, each of these attributes was learned. And anyone who knows Tiger's relationship with his father Earl can see them as clearly as I and others can.
I believe that Tiger, throughout this US Open was keenly aware of the fact that he was being guided by the mighty Hand of God, and the legacy his father gave to him.
Surely, Earl was with Tiger through these rounds. Tiger knew it. I could see it. Now we know his secret.